When I first became a stay at home mom , I was so happy and proud of the decision. What I didn’t expect was all the backlash and the constant defending of why I decided to do it or the miss conception that all I do is lay around. For some reason people think that all stay at home parents are like those on TV, the Real Housewives of whatever city. REALITY check, it is most definitely not anything like the shows.
It’s a non stop job, even on vacation we are working. Oh and when you get home from vacation, everyone goes back to work or school, and the clean up seems never ending. When having a stressful day or bad day or sick day, people includong family give you the are you for real look? Well yeah I am for real!!! When I worked everyone in the house would help, from cooking, cleaning dishes, laundry, etc. Now it’s like, well mom will get that mentality, or I get the It’s your duty/job! Talk about slap in the face when you get told that. Or My favorite is you have all day to do that?!?! Well yes that would be true, if you didn’t have to take the kids to and from school, to and from activities, helping at the school, helping at the after school activities, cleaning, making breakfats/lunch/dinner/snacks, groceries, cleaning, laundry, dry cleaning, and then making sure that the kids at home are not on the TV or tablets all day. So you take the little ones to story time, playdate, park, do some preschool so they learn and are ready for school. Not to mention the things that pop up, like kids forgetting things, doctors appointments, vet appointments, etc. Yeah it’s pretty much a full day almost everyday, and I wouldn’t change a thing, but defending what I do is very exhausting, what is worse is that the ones I defend it from seems to be the people closest to me. Why? Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, I get that, but speak your opinion and move on, don’t throw it my face when mad or angry, or joke about it all the time.
I know I am not alone!! While sitting during swim lesson, or sports, or whatever activity, I hear other moms talking, and the majority of them have the same complaints. Why must we live in such a judgemental world. What ever happened to love and accept one another?
Stay At Home Momma